Source: Parenting ADHD and Autism
Some people refuse to label, I am not pre-label but label helps us to view the full potential, the hiccups we should be expecting and frankly, labels help us to guide azfar better.
Telling, saying, calling my son is with ADHD is not labeling him with disadvantages or disabilities. I know deep in my heart somehow the ‘dis’ is there :(. From now on, I MUST stop calling him that. I must be calling him by his advantages.
My azfar is
a happy boy…
These are the values I need to focus on. Rather than focusing on his weakness, I must be valuing his positive qualities. 🙂
Azfar Hazim is currently facing some sensory overload!!! ARGHHHH.. I am the one who really need to calm down. not him. Can’t blame him for the overloadness :((
One reason why I do not visit friends and families on Hari Raya (not unless they understand azfar’s situation) is because he can be very sensitive to his surroundings- especially smells, clusters, toys, curtain colours and even to the extend not aligned photo frames. Last year, we went to a house, and azfar pointed out a painting at my friend’s house…. ‘Ummi..tu..salah tu…’ . Everybody looked and realised that painting was tilted to the left. Oh dear darling! *face palm* Everybody praised him , but I felt sorry for the host.. 🙂 hehehehe.
I do not (ever) blame parents or caregivers for their choice. Be it using the conventional meds or alternative ones. But I do believe, once you made the decision do it right and make it right. You cannot expect miracles to happen by only deciding which or what to use. Do it and I really mean it.
I am still learning ..and struggling to do what I think is the best for my ADHD son. I have met and seen/heard parents who opts for alternative meds for their autistic child; and yet they are feeding the child with high content sugar supplements or only probiotics. And that is all! I am not saying what I am doing is the perfect way; but hey! keep feeding yourself with new interventions, new ideas. These thing are for your own kids’ life. When I tried to tell them about EO, the no no supplements (they are feeding some local supplements claiming can cure hyperactivity, ADHD what not), they just can’t take it! They looked at me as if I am against makanan sunnah. Some had tried using EO once or twice and claimed to me and to the whole group they didnt work. 😦 oh my! Then I know I am not welcomed in their group. 🙂
When I read a few testimonial, journey on ASD, ADHD children using EO, alternative meds, the food intervention, I was keen to ‘try’. TRY is a big word because in my son’s world that includes trying new smells, new food, new routines, new habits. But my husband and decided we will not tolerate the stimulants. I must thank my FB friends for introducing me to the new terms- Munirah, Marissa Ali, Ida Altahari for their guides (watsapp, sms, links, testimonials, getting me the epsom salt, etc). There are lot more to learn ..it is endless journey with hiccups though.
I have to admit, the combination of EO, salt, food are a little pricey. I cannot afford them all. Unlike my friends in KL who mostly can afford to get the best probiotics for their children. I am struggling my best to get them all. 🙂 But I am happy with the results.
I had a few friends (not very close ones) questioning the reasons for using the hard way of ‘treating’ ADHD. Why not use the stimulants offered/prescribed by the paeds? I have all the answers. I do! –Why in the world should I let my son depends on stimulants when I can find another way? You want shorcuts, then go ahead. But I dont!